Victim of Other Children [#14624]

August 19, 2021


There’s a certain child who is often a victim of other children in the grade, who enjoy angering him. This child has a hard time controlling himself, and when others anger him, he gets angry back at them. What is a practical advice on how to help this child control his angry retaliation at others?


Rav Kaduri zt”l gave advice as follows: Train the child that whenever he feels angry, he should remind himself of something funny, which will cause him to laugh. Then his anger will subside very quickly. There is also additional advice which is a more gradual kind of change: To train the child to minimize his anger a little bit each time. The child can be trained to slowly minimize his anger with each time he gets angry, to the point that he eventually doesn’t get angry at all.