SHIDDUCHIM – GOOD GIRL WITH INTERNET [#15912]

October 17, 2021

QUESTION:

If a boy and girl are dating and they are compatible in their ruchniyus , but the girl owns a laptop with filtered (Net-Free) internet which she uses for her learning and for work, is this a reason for the boy to say no the shidduch?

ANSWER:

You need to find out well why she owns a laptop, which sites she is able to connect with, and the level [amount of time] of how much she uses it. Find out also if she uses it only for work or beyond work purposes. And, find out if she is aware at all of the dangers [of owning an internet-capable laptop even though it’s filtered].
SHIDDUCHIM – IF THE BOY SMOKES
If a certain bochur is reputed to have a good heart and has yiras shomayim but he smokes, is that a reason to reject him in a shidduch?
ANSWER
If there is nothing else you are concerned about him, then this [smoking] is not something to be concerned about.