QUESTION:
For a while already I want to move from America to Eretz Yisrael. I want to leave it all behind and come to live in Eretz Yisrael, and my wife now is also thinking about it….and I think I can sell my house here and buy a house in Eretz Yisrael.
However, I would feel so bad taking away nachas from my parents and in-laws because they love seeing my children and now they won’t be able to see them anymore. I feel like I don’t have the heart to do this to them. My wife is also very close to her family here. My parents would probably be very upset if I decide to abandon them and take my kids away from them, and they would accuse of being ungrateful to them after everything they’ve done for me, for financially supporting me, etc.
My marriage is not in the greatest shape and I’m afraid that moving to Eretz Yisrael will only put more pressure on my wife and she won’t be happy, and I’m afraid of what that will do to our marriage. Also, my wife is concerned that my kids won’t know Lashon HaKadosh and that they won’t settle down here in the schools in Eretz Yisrael.
On one hand I really feel that the will of Hashem is to leave everything here in America and go live in Eretz Yisrael, and if not now, then when? And I’m afraid that if I wait longer, it will be too late chas v’shalom. So I think I should move to Eretz Yisrael because if that’s what Hashem wants from me, then I should plunge ahead with it because nothing bad comes from doing ratzon Hashem.
Certainly there will be difficulties but we believe that if this is really what Hashem wants from us, then we have nothing to be worried about. On the other hand, maybe it’s my yetzer hora telling me to move to Eretz Yisrael, and maybe it’s because I lack stability in my soul? I don’t know what Hashem wants me to do. I have davened a lot about this to Hashem but I still wasn’t zocheh yet to clarity on what Hashem wants from me to do….there are other factors too…
However, I would feel so bad taking away nachas from my parents and in-laws because they love seeing my children and now they won’t be able to see them anymore. I feel like I don’t have the heart to do this to them. My wife is also very close to her family here. My parents would probably be very upset if I decide to abandon them and take my kids away from them, and they would accuse of being ungrateful to them after everything they’ve done for me, for financially supporting me, etc.
My marriage is not in the greatest shape and I’m afraid that moving to Eretz Yisrael will only put more pressure on my wife and she won’t be happy, and I’m afraid of what that will do to our marriage. Also, my wife is concerned that my kids won’t know Lashon HaKadosh and that they won’t settle down here in the schools in Eretz Yisrael.
On one hand I really feel that the will of Hashem is to leave everything here in America and go live in Eretz Yisrael, and if not now, then when? And I’m afraid that if I wait longer, it will be too late chas v’shalom. So I think I should move to Eretz Yisrael because if that’s what Hashem wants from me, then I should plunge ahead with it because nothing bad comes from doing ratzon Hashem.
Certainly there will be difficulties but we believe that if this is really what Hashem wants from us, then we have nothing to be worried about. On the other hand, maybe it’s my yetzer hora telling me to move to Eretz Yisrael, and maybe it’s because I lack stability in my soul? I don’t know what Hashem wants me to do. I have davened a lot about this to Hashem but I still wasn’t zocheh yet to clarity on what Hashem wants from me to do….there are other factors too…
ANSWER:
Cry to Hashem about this, until your wife turns to you and asks you “Can we move to Eretz Yisrael…?”
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