QUESTION:
I have a difficult time trusting and believing that Hashem wants to give me only what’s best for me. I want to get married and build a Torah home. I see so many older singles and that causes me to lose emunah: If they’re not getting married, why should I think that Hashem will help me get married? I have difficulty believing that Hashem loves me and wants me to have a good life. Intellectually I understand that Hashem is good and He is good to everyone, but deep in me I don’t feel this and I don’t believe in it. I tried getting used to always saying “Thank you” to Hashem and seeing the good in my life, but I still keep getting recurring thoughts that “I am still single. I am not married…”
ANSWER:
You need to review the fundamentals of emunah and make it practical. Refer to sefer Bilvavi Mishkan Evneh, parts 1-2. Hashem will give you whatever is good for you personally, only He knows what’s truly and good for you exactly. You want to understand Hashem, but that is impossible. Instead, you just need to believe with emunah that He’s doing what’s good for you.
Some of those who don’t get married have chosen to do so with their own bechirah – they are searching for a shidduch that is not really for them, and that is why they are not finding!
Some of those who don’t get married have chosen to do so with their own bechirah – they are searching for a shidduch that is not really for them, and that is why they are not finding!
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