QUESTION:
Many times my wife says to me, “I am not the spiritual type. I’m not the type to listen to shiurim. I just want to be simple and do what Hashem wants. Even if I hear a shiur, I don’t want it to be deep or intellectual, it has to be simple. I don’t understand how women can listen to any deep shiurim about how to serve Hashem. That’s not me at all.”
1) Is it possible that there are some women who don’t need to listen to shiurim or read any sefarim?
1) Is it possible that there are some women who don’t need to listen to shiurim or read any sefarim?
ANSWER:
Yes. Her husband should tell her things on her level of understanding.
QUESTION
(2) Can it be that a wife is already close to Hashem just from being a good wife and mother and therefore she doesn’t need any shiurim or sefarim?
ANSWER
It depends on her personality and also on what stage in life she is up to, like if she is raising small children or not, etc.
QUESTION
3) What should I tell my wife when she tells me that she is not spiritual and doesn’t want to be?
ANSWER
Tell her that she is spiritual, but it is just that we always need to be constantly growing more and more.
QUESTION
4) What do I tell her when she sometimes admits to me “I really need guidance on how to become closer to Hashem…”?
ANSWER
Tell her that you will be happy to help her according to what her needs are, and not according to the depth that you need.
QUESTION
(2) Can it be that a wife is already close to Hashem just from being a good wife and mother and therefore she doesn’t need any shiurim or sefarim?
ANSWER
It depends on her personality and also on what stage in life she is up to, like if she is raising small children or not, etc.
QUESTION
3) What should I tell my wife when she tells me that she is not spiritual and doesn’t want to be?
ANSWER
Tell her that she is spiritual, but it is just that we always need to be constantly growing more and more.
QUESTION
4) What do I tell her when she sometimes admits to me “I really need guidance on how to become closer to Hashem…”?
ANSWER
Tell her that you will be happy to help her according to what her needs are, and not according to the depth that you need.
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