INNER-CHILD THERAPY [#17702]

December 24, 2021

QUESTION:

What is the “inner child”? Does a person need to treat his own “inner child” in the same that a child needs to be treated, to be drawn close when necessary and to be scolded when necessary?

ANSWER:

This is based on the Gemara, “Always use the right hand to draw close, and the left hand to push away.”
QUESTION
2) Is the “inner child” located in the nefesh habehaimis area of the soul or in higher areas of the soul?
ANSWER
It is in the lower third section of the body, where the nefesh habehaimis is located. But the nefesh Elokis (G-dly soul) also illuminates it.
QUESTION
3) Is the inner child the real “you”, our very soul itself, or is it only a “part” of our soul?
ANSWER
It is a “part” of the soul.
QUESTION
4) There’s a therapy called “Non-Dominant Hand Writing” where a person uses his non-dominated hand (i.e. a right-handed person writing with his left hand) and lets the words flow, and the words that he writes are the messages of the “inner child” talking to him. This therapy is used for people to get in touch with their “inner child” and bring out their childish nature again. Is this a Torah-approved method of healing one’s inner child and getting in touch with it?
ANSWER
No. It awakens the weak, unrefined parts of the soul, which are one’s katnus, immaturity.

QUESTION
5) Can a person read non-Jewish self-help books or see a therapist that uses non-Jewish methods, if he’s suffering a lot internally and emotionally? If he can’t learn properly because he hasn’t yet healed his issues? Is it considered pikuach nefesh that his life is in danger because his life is falling apart from all of this emotional stuff that has to get healed?
ANSWER
Regarding the aspect of being able to learn Torah better [after making use of non-Jewish methods of psychology], the therapy/reading may help him, but it can also harm him spiritually, because the ways that are taught by the goyim [are focused on healing the person but] do not guide a person into being able to learn Torah better.