QUESTION:
My son works. He lives with us in our home, which Hashem has blessed us with sons and daughters. He is lazy. He sleeps until 9 in the morning and goes late to minyan. He’s not interested in learning Torah. What can I do about this?
ANSWER:
In order to influence another, there are several factors.
1. Pray for him from the depths of the heart, and with tears.
2. Through a genuine love for him, that you are out for his good.
3. Help him recognize that you are only interested in what’s good for him.
4. Understand that he has bechirah (free will) and that no one else can choose for him.
5. Express the joy we can feel when we sense G-dly truth.
6. Have much deliberation and patience with him, and rejoice through the suffering, and rejoice whenever there is any progress.
Right now, the main avodah is the personal growth of the parents. The growth will be an inner process which causes meaningful, long-lasting change – in addition to all that was mentioned above.
1. Pray for him from the depths of the heart, and with tears.
2. Through a genuine love for him, that you are out for his good.
3. Help him recognize that you are only interested in what’s good for him.
4. Understand that he has bechirah (free will) and that no one else can choose for him.
5. Express the joy we can feel when we sense G-dly truth.
6. Have much deliberation and patience with him, and rejoice through the suffering, and rejoice whenever there is any progress.
Right now, the main avodah is the personal growth of the parents. The growth will be an inner process which causes meaningful, long-lasting change – in addition to all that was mentioned above.
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