QUESTION:
Should a person mainly do what is difficult for him to do, or should a person mainly do things that better suit his personality?
ANSWER:
: Generally speaking, in the beginning stages of a person’s improvement, he must make sure that he is doing whatever he is obligated and responsible to do. That should be clear. When it comes to doing things that he is not obligated to do, he should mainly do things that suit his personality. One should also try to do at least one thing that doesn’t suit his personality, which is difficult for him to do, and to force himself to do it.
So, generally speaking, a person needs to do mainly what suits his personality [besides for his obligations and responsibilities in life, which he must do anyhow], along with doing at least one thing that is hard for him to do, so that he is balanced. Often a person thinks that a certain undertaking is suitable for his personality to do, when it is really not, because he has never learned how to go against his own personality, and therefore he has never left his comfort zone. But if a person forces himself to do at least one thing that is hard for him to, he has trained himself to leave his comfort zone sometimes, and this will slowly show him what his true personality is and what he should mainly pursue. In fact, the very idea of forcing yourself to do something that doesn’t suit your character is what lies at the core of nullifying yourself to do Hashem’s will.
So, generally speaking, a person needs to do mainly what suits his personality [besides for his obligations and responsibilities in life, which he must do anyhow], along with doing at least one thing that is hard for him to do, so that he is balanced. Often a person thinks that a certain undertaking is suitable for his personality to do, when it is really not, because he has never learned how to go against his own personality, and therefore he has never left his comfort zone. But if a person forces himself to do at least one thing that is hard for him to, he has trained himself to leave his comfort zone sometimes, and this will slowly show him what his true personality is and what he should mainly pursue. In fact, the very idea of forcing yourself to do something that doesn’t suit your character is what lies at the core of nullifying yourself to do Hashem’s will.
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