QUESTION:
About 10 years ago, for various reasons our son left yeshiva. He was a very emotional and good-hearted type of child and he had been very talented. His ruchniyus began to spiral downward until he left Yiddishkeit totally. He had kept up with us though very minimally. About 3 years ago, though, he totally severed his connection with us. He says that no one understands or feels him (as a mother would to her child). Recently he has severed himself completely from Yiddishkeit and from the Creator, Rachmana Litzlan (may Hashem save him). As his parents, what should be our relationship with him? And how can I, as his mother, give him the mother-to-child bond that he feels I’ve let him down in?
ANSWER:
Give him genuine love and help whenever he needs it, without thinking about how he acts. Help him in anything he needs, except if it’s for something that’s forbidden to help him with. Having pure motivations to help him and with being open towards him will, with assistance from Above, touch his heart. And if there is a zechus, this will even become the path for him to return to his root.
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