QUESTION:
1) Can a 21-year old bochur start shidduchim (dating)?
ANSWER:
As long as he can remain immersed in his learning and he won’t be having sinful thoughts, and as long as one’s age isn’t making it harder for him to be considered for a shidduch, one is allowed to wait on starting shidduchim
QUESTION
2) What tools does a bochur need before starting shidduchim, especially with regards to where he’s holding in his learning and in his maturity in general?
ANSWER
Before marriage, it is ideal if a person first has a strong connection to his Torah learning, to the point that he knows he can hold strong in his learning after he gets married when he will have more responsibilities on his mind. He also needs to be able to come out of himself so that he can be able to connect with another human being. And he also needs the ability to be able to build together a life of being together with another person.
QUESTION
2) What tools does a bochur need before starting shidduchim, especially with regards to where he’s holding in his learning and in his maturity in general?
ANSWER
Before marriage, it is ideal if a person first has a strong connection to his Torah learning, to the point that he knows he can hold strong in his learning after he gets married when he will have more responsibilities on his mind. He also needs to be able to come out of himself so that he can be able to connect with another human being. And he also needs the ability to be able to build together a life of being together with another person.
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