QUESTION:
In a situation where a woman has to get divorced, what is the inner meaning of it, why does Hashem want this from her? Why would a man or woman need to go through a divorce, and how are they supposed to deal with it in the Torah way? What’s the inner meaning behind why they need to get divorced? What good can we say about getting divorced? (Certainly the intention here is not to legitimize divorce, only to help those who are dealing with this situation, to go about it in the proper and emotionally healthy way according to the Torah.)
ANSWER:
The root of the concept of divorce is in the Nesirah, the ‘surgical removal’ of Chavah from Adam, where Nukva (the feminine side) became separated from Zeir Anpin (the masculine side). The entire purpose of Creation is that there should first be a separation in order to unify afterwards, to demolish in order to build. This is reflected in the mitzvah of the Torah to remarry one’s divorcee, in which one rebuilds what he had demolished, revealing how what he had demolished had led to building something from it, but even in a case where the man and woman are not zocheh after their divorce to get remarried to each other, Hashem returns and connects everything together properly as it should be. The separation is always a demolishing for the purpose of building something from it, and then they are zocheh to a new connection [with another], which will result in offspring, as the Torah says in the verse “sheger alafecha”, the offspring that is sent out from you, in which geresh (divorce) becomes turned into sheger (offspring that follows later in the next marriage).
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