HOW DO I GET AN ENEMY TO LIKE ME? [#17722]

December 24, 2021

QUESTION:

What should a person do if he suspects that someone is jealous of him? Or if he thinks that someone else thinks negatively of him, or dislikes him, or hates him? Does he need to flatter the other person or try to find chein (favor or charisma) in the other’s eyes? Should he humble himself in front of the other? Or should he daven and have bitachon in Hashem? Is there anything else a person can do to get rid of an enemy (besides for davening and bitachon)?

ANSWER:

The main thing to do is to increase a deep feeling of love for the other, even if the other isn’t aware of this at all. This will cause him to like you back, because “Just as water reflects a face to another, so does the heart of man to a man”, his heart will be turned in your favor when you increase your feeling of love towards him.